I can remember as a child my mom or dad quite often saying to me, “Look at me when I am talking to you!” Now as a father, I find myself repeating this to my daughter! Why is this so important? Because listening must start with looking. That’s when I know I have your attention. That’s when I know you care. Sadly, I’m not always the best example. Sometimes I come home from work and Alexis starts talking to me and I have my eyes glued to my computer saying something like, “Uh-huh, that’s great, Alexis.” When I do this, Alexis gets irritated because I’ve made the computer more important than she is.
But Jesus was different. He looked at people. Paul Miller, from his lesser-known book, Love Walked Among Us, says:
As I studied how Jesus loved, I was surprised by the number of times that Jesus looked at people. Altogether the Gospels mention Jesus looking at people about forty times. I was particularly struck by how often his compassion for people was preceded by his looking (see Mat. 9:6, Mark 10:21, John 19:26-27).
So how do we become more like Jesus? Ironically, Miller continues,
If we know we are loved — that someone is looking at us — then we can give love; then we can look at others.